Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with
– Carrie Bradshaw
Dating over relationships is the new norm, always seeing someone but never all in with anyone. How many drunken make-out sessions and tinder dates do you need before being able to tackle the big ‘C’ – commitment? It seems we have become allergic to romance, or perhaps we’re just overwhelmed by all the means we have to meet people and tired out by failed Tinder tales.
But know this: if he’s not making an effort this valentines day, it’s probably time to accept that he’s just not that into you. If a guy likes you, you’ll know it – if he wants to call, he will; if he’s thinking of you, those roses will appear on your doorstep. Women tend to make a lot of excuses for men, but as Samantha Jones put it “men aren’t that complicated, they’re kind of like plants.” And you know what, it’s okay to be single on valentines day, did Samantha ever look like she wasn’t having a good time!?
If you really think about the share of disaster dates you’ve been on, staying home with your puppy doesn’t seem all that bad. Last year on valentines day, a friend of mine was taken on a hike in 30 degree heat, in full hair, make-up and heels (he didn’t think to give her forewarning of the nature of the date). Once they reached their destination, he’d laid out a picnic, intent of course sweet as ever, however with warm wine, melted food and no water in sight she was far from impressed. I texted her halfway to find out how it was going, and upon receiving a run down she ended with ‘I’m the kind of girl that needs to be covered in caviar and champagne, not soil and spiders’ – at least she maintained a sense of humour about it. Like I said, enjoying that champers in a bubble bath alone is not the worst thing to happen.
Of late there seem to be some real gems out there. In a matter of seconds I managed to come across this talent (an apparent serial killer who enjoys romantic bubble baths, a zombie, and a male stripper or perhaps he’s just a guy having a major identity crisis):
But if my two cents have not convinced you that you may be better off single this valentines day there’s always the invisible boyfriend app, aka a digital boyfriend “without the baggage” – you can even build him to your appearance and personality specification. Each to their own, although this digital age does seem to be blurring the line between dating and delusion.